My Motherhood Story: Do you take your baby’s crying personally?

Becoming a mum has been a wild ride, full of love, surprises, and yes, quite a few tears—both mine and my baby’s.

There’s this part of mum life that’s hit me harder than I expected: dealing with my little one’s cries. It’s weird, but how happy or upset she is really affects how I feel.

When she’s all smiles and giggles, I’m on top of the world. But when the crankiness kicks in… boy, does it drain me.

We had this amazing run recently, just soaking up the good vibes, laughing and playing. Then, as it happens with kids, her moods got more complex. I completely broke.

It got me thinking, why do I take her crying so personally?

I’ve noticed I start pulling back when she’s not responding the way I hoped. My anxiety hits an all time high.

It’s like if she’s upset, I worry I’m doing something wrong, and I start doubting our connection. And yeah, that guilt sneaks in because here I am, still figuring out how to bond with her, especially as she’s starting to show her own little personality.

Every time she asserts herself, it’s like a mini-test. Am I a good mum? Her tears and tantrums shouldn’t be the yardstick, but sometimes it feels that way.

But here’s the real talk

Her finding her own way isn’t a bad thing. I have to understand that it doesn’t mean I’m failing.

If fact supporting her through the happy days and the meltdown moments is what motherhood is all about. 

It’s not about keeping her quiet or always cheerful; it’s about letting her know it’s okay to feel all the feels, and my goal as her mum is to let her know that I’m here for her, no matter what.

Reflecting on this journey, I am slowly realizing that being a mum isn’t about creating this perfect little world. It’s about accepting the mess, the noise, and all the emotions that come with it. It’s a ride, for sure, but it’s our ride.

Turn the fear into logic

Looking ahead, I know there’ll be more challenges, more laughs, and definitely more tears. But the plan is to stay present, offer all the support I can, and not get too hung up on the rough days.

Mum life is a complicated journey without a handbook. 

Each day brings a mix of tears, smiles, and everything in between.

 But that’s what makes it real. It’s about embracing our shared moments, learning to let go of how I think things ‘should’ be, and just being there for each other—through every up, down, and loop-de-loop.

Where are you in your motherhood journey?

I invite you to share your own experiences, challenges, and triumphs. Let’s create a space of transparency and support, where the realness of our feelings is not only acknowledged but celebrated. It’s time to break the stigma surrounding the authenticity of our emotions in motherhood.

By sharing our stories, we can build a community that uplifts, understands, and empowers each other through every step of this incredible journey.

Your story has the power to inspire, comfort, and connect. Let’s open up the conversation and embrace the true essence of motherhood, together.

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Hi! I'm Virginia.
I'm a new mum like you wanting to change the way we see our motherhood journey, the good, crazy and the darn right terrible without judgment or criticism.

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